Posted by JohnZ: My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.
Not that the title of this post has anything to do with the subject, butt, it triggered the thought of circular thinking. John, both your statements point to personal 'head games'. (That phrase wasn't intentional, but hey, it worked out that way. )

And that is what orgasm is anyway, a head game. Women have that same inner dialogue that eventually leads them to give up or die trying to cum. But their dialogue runs along the lines of "if I enjoy this, he'll think I'm a slut" or the usual "good girls don't cum from oral sex." Most of the soccer moms I know look like they gave up. I NEVER give up... and glad I still don't!

(Anyway, thought I'd give you a little insight into thinking of women in the Bible Belt)

I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.
See! It is a head game with yourself. Personally, I don't believe in your theory of 'not being in control,' as a possible reason for not reaching orgasm with a bj. The silent way you do orgasm has to do with your mind.

I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita