Quote Originally Posted by nikita
I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita
Well I will agree that it is most likely a "head game" - it is all in my head (though do not discount the control thing - since that is a head game in itself - for who is ever in control really?)

As for the abstention - that theory has been tested to no avail. -- But I will say - the one time that I did come from a BJ - it was from my lovely wife, when she was determined to make me cum. She kept at it -- to take me over the threshold. Unfortuantly I get to the point normally- but do not crest. (so it can be done, I just have not have had the patient partner, though my wife's jaw did hurt from the time she spent on me that time, and has not rallied that kind of desire again - I guess it was something to check off her list - and then - not worry about it any more.)

Thanks for the feedback -

John