Quote Originally Posted by somewriter
I must admit, I have a similar problem. Much as I enjoy the dom aspect (I'm a switch, I do both), I'm too "nice" to be very convincing at it! I think a lot of the confidence will come from practice and experience. You can help to try and bring out his dominant desires by inspiring him - if resisting him will make him shout at you, maybe that is a good way to encourage him to be firmer. Or maybe that doesn't work so well, and you should be as obedient as possible in order to instill confidence that he can tell you to do whatever he wants.
Hi somewriter!

Not trying to pick on you luv...and you did use the words "if" and "maybe," but shouting at someone doesn't make them Dominant imho....it just means they like to yell at you. Or it could even turn into verbal abuse if done regularly.

I personally think...and lord knows I don't have a lot of experience, but I feel that a Dominant can let you know something with just a look or a soft spoken word. You also mentioned that you are not good at being Dominant because you are too "nice." I think that a good Dominant is very nice. I also think he can be romantic, caring, and kind.

Am I totally wrong on this subbie friends?? Please clue me in if I am!