Quote Originally Posted by learningtopleez

I am beginning to think that I am not meant for this type of lifestyle....or maybe I am just not meant for true love...
Keep the faith, LTP. You have to kiss a lot of frogs...or in this case screen out the ones you don't like and toss them back into the pond...to catch or be caught by "the one".

True love comes when we least expect and certainly not always when we are seeking it. Course, those matchmakers (aka our friends and family) can come in handy. Right, Alura?

--- To answer Ocean_Soul's question ---

I met T through one group of friends and Nat through another. T, over 20+ years ago, in the real world. Nat, last year, online.

I consider myself a switch, but not a sub. I'm more a pet to T, like a wild tigress to his tiger, than a submissive anywhere other than the bedroom when we play.

Nat is also a switch, though in the past, he's had far more time as the dom than the sub.

We started online as friends first. Building a relationship, then talking on the phone. I truly enjoy our time together, and it's not all about s-e-x. * nods head *

After months of chatting on the telephone and via messenger, Nat came right out and asked me to be his Miss. We spoke quite at length about what this meant to each of us, as in what he wanted from the relationship and what I wanted - not having really thought about being someone's domme, but enjoying the role in my fiction through my characters.

T was consulted and he immediately said, "No." Actually, I did, too. Then after weeks, probably more than a month of heavy discussions, when Nat proved himself sincere, and T set down some very hard limits, the no turned into a yes.