Hi,

I want to support 'no shouting' option. Actually, for me it isn't an option. Once shouting/yelling starts - Doming ends. What starts is: opening for ALL kinds abuse - I hope we're NOT talking about that.

I never shout in play - and often joke, even laugh.

As a sub (yes, I am switch) - yell at me - and you lost me.
If need for shouting arises - go to rock concert, together. Or something else that fits your sensibility.

His_Wife, maybe he should engage is some non/play activities that will force him to exercise dominant trait? And DO build the cage. Building it would be excellent exercise.

(Note: rising voice in controlled manner and being firm is NOT shouting. Neither is growling, LTP )
S/he must exercise willpower - any physical coercion follows... awww I am so romantic


Just an opinion

Romantic Pej


oh - and aftercare goes without saying.