Oh yes...no, he would not ever yell at me. He doesn't even yell at me when he's angry at me, heh.

Me disobeying just make him let me off the hook, lol. Sometimes all I have to do is make an "ick" face or act reluctant and he backs off. What fun is that? *smile* Personally I would prefer he have very exacting standards for my behavior and demand perfect obedience...which I have expressed to him, and he likes that idea too .

He is improving rapidly though...it seems our recent conversations have emboldened him quite a bit. *yay* I made "ick" faces like crazy last night and he didn't back off for a long time. That made us both happy!

I know he is conflicted...I think all our years together as equal partners is making this transition a little...hmmm...."not intuitive" for him. *smile* In daily life, we remain equal partners...but when it comes to sex I just want to please him in any crazy kinky way he can come up with! (I like to tease him about this and tell him he's got a terribly difficult life and a boring wife, hehe)

Thank you everybody, for your advice. I shall peruse the provided links. *smile*