Well I am a new at this BDSM library, but what was said about control freaks by everyone here is so true and I agree with you logic1 when you said this problem happens in any life style. I just wish I had read this post before I married the control freak, but I am glad that I didn’t stay married to the control freak when he tried to get me to quit uni, my friends and family. All the while I had no idea how to label him. lol at least now I have a name for it the &*%^ .