Right on, ID. It's up to you to define your relationship, the labels don't matter. When I was reading your descirption of the hard core 24/7 couple I was thinking "No driver's licence?! No job?! Has to . . .oh wait, I have to ask permission to get my hair cut." You draw the lines where they are comfortable for you and your Man. If that line isn't "this stuff belongs only in the bedroom", then I think a lot of people would call you 24/7 or at least lifestylers.