*reads with wide open eyes and makes a mental note never to allow GreyJack to play with her mind if there is only the slightest chance she pissed him off before*

Ayesha, thanks for pointing out sub fears so clearly (I do not mean the one of the dark...). Your words are awesomely well put, and I thought I was the only one having them sometimes/having had them massively in the beginning of my BDSM life.

You two keep going, please :-) It would be so greatly appreciated.