Quote Originally Posted by just_annie View Post
2) be VERY careful what you ask for, or it may be more then you can handle. It may be frustrating that he didn't take instant control but think of it in reverse (seems to be my major way of thinking anymore... lol). What if he were doing exactly the opposite to prove his control over you and taking each tiny infraction that he feels happened, even if you didn't intend it that way, and punished you harshly for it to "train" you. Having been there done that it was not pleasant and in a short period of time actually made me start to rethink the entire D/s relationship. He was rushing at that point, not me, but it ultimately had a negative effect as well.
That is very true. He has voiced His concerns about taking the D/s relationship outside the bedroom & His being afraid He will abuse the control. Thank you both for your wise words.