Oh dear! A Psychologist amking a comment like that? I'm surprised!

Seriously, though, there are a lot of things that people do in their lives that I maybe don't like or don't agree with - but I will always respect their right to lead their lives as they wish. And just as they have a right to their lifestyles, I also have a right to mine.

Does it really matter to anybody else what consenting adults get up to? They're consenting, they're old enough to know what they're doing and, more importantly, they're not harming anybody else. It's a shame that many folks out there in 'Vanilla Land' think that BDSM is just about being tied up and flogged.

I'm not what you would call a 'lifestyle' player in the BDSM game (is that the right word?), but most of my friends know what I like. I've always been open about things, often making them into a joke, so many people don't even have an idea that it really is my 'thing'. As I've been telling them for years, "I may be a perv, but I'm a harmless perv!"

Don't ever forget that it's your life and you have a right to live it as you wish. People may have advice for you. Listen to the advice, but always make up your own mind.

It's just my own opinion on the subject...