What to say or do?

With a situation such as this, you're going to
have to be the one to make that call and
ask yourself what's more important to you
on a personal level.

Expressing your true feelings and views held
on this thing called the BDSM lifestyle or simply
preserving your own right to privacy and keeping
your opinions to yourself.

I have no idea how long you've been in the
BDSM lifestyle but if this gives you reason to take
pause than as the saying goes, "you aint' seen nothing
yet."

Hell, I've been doing my own thing as far as the
terminology goes within this personal life choice and
I've yet to understand most of what takes place when
it comes to "people" in general.

In my view, it's too often like BDSM being this massive
river and you have these campers pitching tents on
all sides of it. Everyone has come there to drink but
far too often this river that has drawn them together
for a common purpose (to slake their thirst) has in
essence separated them all the further.

Why do I say this?
I'm glad you asked. LOL

You speak to some folks and they will say that
their way is how things should be done, if you don't
do this or subscribe to their train of thought, you're
simply doing it all wrong.

Now I don't say this is the case with all individuals so
don't everyone get your clamps and whips in a tangle.

From what I've seen over many years within this great
journey we partake of, we too damn often can't find
some happy medium and let everyone do their own thing
without casting down feelings of even further isolation
that some grapple with on a regular basis.

It's pretty plain and simple a sad thing indeed!!!

Over time when faced with situations like this I
preach about tolerance for others and maybe taking
a step back to set ego and emotion aside and give
a bit of understanding when it can do the most good
for those who seek it most.

There you go, pretty much all there is to it but
as Sisyphus was condemed to keeping rolling that
rock uphill; we probably won't ever truly eliminate
or resolve issues such as this as long as we deal
with the human element and all the baggage that
comes along with it.

Do your own thing, hold you head up high, no fear,
no shame in embracing what works for you.
The only other advice being, remember how you felt
when faced with something like this and work toward
making others feel less that way.