Approval of others, do you defend your lifestyle?

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Just a side point.

I've always heard people have fetishes OR bdsm related desires b/c of abuse.

That its the brains way of coping.. turning something negative into something enjoyable..

If it helps a person get by and function.. then why is it wrong? Why does a person have to face something so painful in the eye and deal head on with something that could be left hidden in the back of their mind?

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Wings honey.........no.......our desires for kink do not always come from abuse......a good deal of us......just like it.......lol

and yes.....i have plenty of those places hiding in my mind, but that is not why i love this lifestyle. Im not saying that it is not a coping method either, if that is what is working for someone then great......i just wanted to say that many of us just love what and who we are....we are not a product of abuse.....Hugs

[wingsofanangel]

Wings honey.........no.......our desires for kink do not always come from abuse......a good deal of us......just like it.......lol

and yes.....i have plenty of those places hiding in my mind, but that is not why i love this lifestyle. Im not saying that it is not a coping method either, if that is what is working for someone then great......i just wanted to say that many of us just love what and who we are....we are not a product of abuse.....Hugs

Oh I know that for sure. I was just saying thats what people try to say lots of times. and even if it were true... whats so wrong with it? yanno?