Hi Devilkisses,

It seems to me that you are figuring things out pretty well! With the help of our esteemed forum members, many of which have tons of experience, you can't go wrong!

I, however, don't have tons of experience, but I do feel that when submitting to your Dom, you should be made to feel....well...submissive...and beautiful in your submissiveness. My last Dom aka Max aka "the teacher" was always very careful to make sure I was okay, in anything we might be doing. He constantly asked me if I was okay, especially if something humiliating were taking place. And he always told me how beautiful I was to him when I did submit to him in any way. We also laughed....but it was always together. *sigh* He has probably ruined me for any other Dom....as I felt that with him I was always cared for and loved when we were together.

Okay...enough of that! But it is just my own personal opinion of how a submissive should be treated. And btw...he wasn't a boyfriend...lol...I met him on the net. We basically got together for the bdsm stuff, cause I wanted to learn. And about the age thing that sensualist mentioned...he was my age. I had only one Dom before him who was much younger...and while he never laughed at me, he did make me feel badly about myself at times. So that didn't last too long.

Anywahoo...I hope the two of you can work this out...and I truly feel you have done the best thing for now....taking a step back until you both (especially him) figure out exactly how you want this to be. I wish you the best sweets!