I just saw this. My wife and I have three kids -all under 14 - so you can imagine how hard it is to find the time and the energy to play. We've found that a written contract keeps us focused on our life as dominant and submissive when it gets difficult to be there. Our contract spells out the duties of each of us to the other and gives us a focal point for our perversion. It also keeps me from making rules one day and abandoning them the next. Everything she is expected to do on a daily basis is in the contract. I can of course have her do something different if I want to - but it is only for that day - not forever unless we add it to the contract. Adding to or changing the contract takes both of our approval and we generally only do that if there is something very important to change or add.