Naomisagoodgirl -

You’re very welcome. I don’t post much these days, but I felt compelled here. I think you’ve started an excellent discussion that many can relate to, so thank you! Yeah - I think your dad has probably had much the typical experience with images of BDSM, more than likely compounded by encountering a huge number of people who are seeking or believe lifestylers should seek “help” for their “abnormal” desires. I certainly don’t think that everyone should bust out with their most intimate predilections at the Thanksgiving table, LOL. But, speaking for myself here, I can’t imagine trying to conceal that big a part of my life from close loved ones forever. There’s always the possibility that family & friends may react badly, but I think (as many have mentioned before me) that much of that comes from misconceptions about what BDSM is & concern for our safety. I think a lot is dependant on approach, too. I spoke with my mom in a calm, serious, & private way - knowing full well she would tell my dad & he would speak with me if he needed to. I told my bro & sis together when we were all joking, teasing, & fooling around. I specifically didn’t want things to be confrontational or to come off accusatory or “in your face,” & I really wanted them all to feel comfortable asking questions & expressing concerns. Others have made some good suggestions & I’m sure you’ll get more great responses, but YOU know your dad…I’m sure you’ll know when it’s right & when you’re ready. I wish you lots of luck & would love to hear an update if/when you share.

Be Well
SS