Quote Originally Posted by FurryFury
Okay I should be getting fucked right now but so far nada! *grr* So I have a few minutes. *sigh*

BDSM to me is about finding someone you can trust and building a relationship of mutual respect with them. In my case, it would be about finding a Dominant because that is what my soul cries out for.

I prefer sex with my scenes but if the Dominant in question didn't do that I think I could not only make do but truly enjoy a strictly D/s situation.

I would never do this however unless my husband was okay with it and I got my courage up.

In the meantime the occasional spankings and other rough play I can get from my husband, along with my fantasies and online activities will have to do.

I am feeling closer to attending a munch though.

If I have not covered what you were looking for just ask more questions.

And I might ask you one.

What is your philosophy of BDSM?

Fury

I am not sure my philosophy is etched in stone. It works for me but not for everyone. I have been involved in the scene since the mid 80’s. I was already involved in spirituality, Goddess worship/pagan – loved rituals, sexually open-minded, etc. I was fascinated with the human psyche and the complexities of nature. I use to have dreams/fantasies that I was a Queen/Goddess and had servants. This was long before I even knew about BDSM. There were lots of little signs along the way.

Once I discovered it it really hit home with me. Back then things were more scary & taboo but it did interest me because it tied right into my whole Goddess scene. I literally invented my own scene and later found other women who felt like I did.

I am a female supremacist, so to speak. It’s not really up for debate here. It’s just what I’m into. In my circles women rule even if they are crawling and begging (because they choose to, are sexual beings and ultimately control the sexual arena). So I might have two female and several makes. The females are always above the males even if they are submissive. The reasons for this is not because I hate men… I love submissive men. It’s more of a spiritual philosophy then anything else. One that I’ll write in my book (see link at bottom Feminine Manifesto).

I am strict and very controlling. I have my reasons for this but I also enjoy being this way. I control what my slaves eat, drink, do, money they earn, etc. Still I have some that dabble and this is ok if we agree on a few set rules that make me comfortable. If I’m not happy no one is happy!

I think that if you and your husband agree to be with others this is ok but just be careful. Maybe the two of you should seek out a dominant couple or one mistress you both could see. This way you can both share the experience and allow the intimacy to build between the two of you. Otherwise one you find that person who controls your deepest desires you might being to detach from hubby. This is natural which is why I rarely accept married slaves unless there is a very strict understanding or approval from the wife. I could never be intimate with another woman’s husband so the play would be non-sexual.

You have not been to a munch? Oh you two should do this together. Seriously. Meet other people for support and it’s a lot of fun!