Well, I'd say that you seem really considerate and that your sub must be really lucky to have someone that loves him so much It's really nice to hear about people like yourself being Dommes.

As for me, my Domme does both; whilst she tries to say how much I am worth, make me feel a little less fearful about my weight and so forth, she also consistently stands me up, which decreases my self-esteem. But when she is there, she makes me feel a lot better.

Anyway, certainly it doesn't come across like you're too easy on him or anything like that, only that you're genuinely loving- after all, it is love which is central in any relationship, vanilla or otherwise. Good luck!