Some of mine I could keep this up for a long time

[Sir_Russell]

Todays Post

I wrote an post for another site that is a vanilla one, a friend of the owner is a close friend and asked would I do that for him. It is just in the first write stage and I am sharing it here for feedback and such.



The Life I love is very large with no one being an expert. I can only talk about the way I both see the Life and live it.

The Life isn’t for everyone, but surprisingly it does seem that a very large following both secretly and those who are out in the open about it. I fall into the latter group. It is about, again in my opinion, respect, honor and pride. When I say that I am a Dom it is about who I am, I have this part of me that won’t allow me to be a lesser man. By that I mean I am honest, I respect people till a person proves that they aren’t worth my respect.

I love having a lovely woman restrained, it shows that I have earned her trust since she is at my mercy, and then seeing how much pleasure I can bring her, how often I can make her cum. The heart of it for me is that she knows that I care for her enough that I will not harm her. It is quite a rush, for her she is giving up control and finding freedom in that act.

So many think that a dominant means domineering but it actual is very different. I have to listen to, study, watch and learn so much about her. My focus has to be on her totally since even my type of play can create mental conditions that must be dealt with so that no harm is done to her mentally or physically. It is what most women want to be the center of his attention, knowing that he wants to bring her joy.

There are those in the Life that are there because they either enjoy pain for pain sake, either causing it or experiencing it. I am not one of those, I have learned that something that might appear to be painful can actually add to the pleasure she experiences. I am also not a Doctor so the why of that I can’t answer, I just know what over many years I have learned. The trick is to know the submissive and what she finds exciting, for some it is humiliation, others it is a certain amount of pain, then there are those that don’t want any pain until they are excited and then their body will take pain and feel it as pleasure. The same sensors work for both pain and pleasure. Once you get to the point that the endorphins are flowing a slap on the ass instead of stinging is warm and wonderful.

I speak of looking for my one, when I find her I intend to make her life as full of joy as I can. If she is excited by anything that I can stomach then I will do that for her. I will help her grow into the woman she wants to be, guide her and protect her. That too is not how the uninformed see us, they see the Dom as this do it my way person. Hard and rigid, uncaring and strict but most actual Doms are pretty laid back people the ones that when things are going very badly are cool and in control of themselves.