I agree I think you've answered your own question. It is hard to know I myself am somewhat like you and just starting to explore my submissive nature. This is how I KNOW I am submisive though. First off I can't even begin to think of doing something to intentionally hurt my husband. Even THINKING about it makes me uncomfortable. Another thing that makes me believe I am submisive if we are playing even if we are having totally vanilla sex if he asks me what I want to do I get this whole deer in the headlights thing going on. I feel uncomfortable, put on the spot, I literally BLUSH I HATE it. I am always seeking his approval even in stupid stuff like what we are having for dinner he always has the last say. If he says he doesn't care it pisses me off, makes me all anxious feeling. Not something I enjoy. I often find myself doing things even the stupid little things like when I take serious initiative to clean I am thinking to myself Jason will be so happy when he gets home because the house is so clean.

I am sure everyone is different but what helps me know for sure is the fact that being anything but submissive makes me really uncomfortable. Now don't get me wrong I am not a stool pidgeon. I am probably the brattiest snottiest submissive on the planet. If I don't like something in our out of the bedroom I make sure my voice is heard whether he likes it or not.

The bottom line you only have to do what makes YOU happy. If you truly are submissive you will be happy serving your dom/me. You may play top sometimes but I think you will always sway towards the submissive side. Like me you may "fight back" but deep down you will always know your dominant will win and that is the way I want it anyway lol.

Good Luck to you. I agree also with something one of the other posters said. Don't get so wrapped up in a label. Being a Dom, Master, Mistress, Domme, submissive, pet, slave is something different for everyone. Everyone has their own rules and likes and dislikes. Be YOU that is what is most important.

Becky