Switching subs?

[sidhewolf]

Ok all you silent switches (and others with experiences in switching...),

When does a sub become a switch?

There are many subs out there who enjoy Dominating other subs. Does this make them switches? Or are they just subs with alpha sub tendencies? Is a sub in a 3-some who subs to the Dom but Doms the other sub a switch or an alpha sub?

I ask because there are many subs out there with "switching tendencies", but they don't consider themselves switches, they consider themselves subs that just "play." Are they switches? Are they subs?


Discuss.

Hello Delia~

I think this a a Great Topic, and a Very Interesting Thread. My Partner *M* is a Dominant/Switch. A Big Switch (pun intended hehehe) from First *M* (who was Pansexual but not Switch), and a rather difficult Journey through for me at first....sometimes even still. This experience has caused me to see things in a different light. I have some Switch Friends, even been played some with them, and was taught Topping by First *M*. But had no firsthand up close and personal experience with a Switch in an intimate Relationship before. Since my Journey with Partner here began, I've Learned a lot more. And come to ponder much more on this Topic.

I think PPL contain many facets to themselves. And I've come up with a category in my head for them. Some are Dominant, Some Primarily Dominant, Some are Dominant/Power Shifters, Some are Submissive, Some are Primarily Submissive, Some are Submissive Power Shifters, Some are Slaves, and Some are Switches.

I think a Sub may become a Switch when they Grow to a point that Dominance becomes a Need for them. Or when they develop a strong desire to Control another person fairly often. But this is pretty hard to say for sure.

I've been to Events that were days long and where Subs played together, and the Alpha Subs were definantly Topping the more Submissive Submissives <G>. But let their Dominant appear and they were on theirs knees immediately.

I think We All as PPL have within us the capacity to be Dominant or Submissive with different PPL, whatever our Primary Personality is. Like tell me, Who is not Submissive to Mom or Dad? <G>. In Our Intimate Relationships We are more Who We Are.

At my usual trade I am quite Dominant, and a Manager or Supervisor. Even as an underling at like where I work right now, I am constantly Managing and Directing other PPL, even the Manager <G>.

With most other PPL on a personal level I Manage them and their needs.

What makes me a good Manager is that I am a Slave, and I am actually Serving those I Manage. PPL have always Loved having me for their Manager, and I've had the lowest turnover rate for transfers from the Departments I have Managed. I am told I am not like other Managers <G> and more Human and caring than others PPL have had.

When PPL come to my Home I Manage them, in a Serving them and their needs sort of way. I instinctively Know they are hungry, thirsty, tired, and offer what they need.

I Top well as I was taught to do <G>, and I enjoy it. I relate to that feeling and ecstasy of being on the bottom. I Love it in another person. It is Home to me. A comraderie if you will. At the same time I Submit to noone but my *M*. Though I've been Submissive with a few. To me it's not the same thing.

PPL in this LifeStyle who Know me RT Know I am Slave, but they also Know I am not Their Slave. I Know I am a Slave. Someone else may see me as a Switch <shrugs>. But I Know who and what I am. And this can easily be seen in this HouseHold <G>.

Someone on chat here once, after my describing myself to them, decided I am like 1% Switch. Hmmmmmm is there maybe a % of what else we may be? <G>.

Respectfully~SidheWolf