Why did you join this Forum?

[Isabelle90]

I really searched myself before I posted on this thread. I've been "circling" this lifestyle choice for almost 10 years. Unsure what to do, I tried to hide my thoughts and feelings from EVERYONE. Almost a year ago I read a book that involved the BDSM lifestyle and I once again found myself craving it more than ever. Yeah! for the Internet. I did some research and found this site. I began circling it as well, until I finally joined.

Yeah, again, for the people on this site. It's so nice to find a community of real people that share the same thoughts and feelings....Some get the reality too!!!

Also, because it is a REAL community, it includes topics outside the realm of BDSM. It all helps to form connections and make others (me) feel more comfortable in the decision to open up and be a part of it all.

[Tufty]

Hello

I was originally looking for some FemDom stories and found this website. For as long as I can remember, I've been turned on by those 'Sadistic Dommes' - even as a teenager, I'd beg/borrow/buy FemDom magazines. I like the BDSM things generally.

As I started to look around the website, it became a lot more intriguing. I'd had one amazing FemDom experience so decided to write about it and share it.

I'm not really one for Internet chat rooms etc but this place looks a bit different from the others.

I keep coming back because I want to read new BDSM/FemDom stories and find out what other people think about the subject. I'm not a 'lifestyle' player in the true sense but I have some amazing fantasies which, sadly, are just dreams...but we can all dream, can't we?

[psg76]

I joined the forum about a month ago to learn about BDSM as my husband/Master are new to it. I have been lurking but have read a lot of posts and learned a lot. Everyone here seems to be really helpful and friendly and that's why I am still here; even if I haven't asked a lot of questions it's because you all have done such a great job of answering them already in previus posts. So I'll go back to lurking for awhile because I'm still so new, but I will eventually speak up and try not to be shy!

[ladychipmunk]

I found the site searching for stories to read. Found the writer's garret and joined. I love the feedback and I think it's helping me to stretch myself from reading into writing.

Thanks Muse et al

[jep33]

I have been writing stories for a few years under the name JEP. All of the situations in them are created from my imagination - not from first-hand experience. I am sure that some of my stories are a bit off the mark due to a lack of real-world knowledge. I came to the forum in anticipation of reading about those who have actually participated.
JEP33

[Avicularia]

I found this site by accident on a google search for photos and such related to BDSM, started reading the stories and never realized there was a forum until, well...a week ago. I just really like that I've found a site where I can meet others with my same interests.

[Wedjat]

I suppose everyone's story is different but this is mine. I've had submissive fantasies on and off for years (dating back to my first kiss, shoved back against the shelves in a band practice room. I still think fondly of that practice room *sigh*)

I was separated for about 3 years and then widowed over a year ago. I was just beginning to date again as a single adult but with a teenager in the house - it's a whole new ball game. I'm over 50, but still in pretty good shape and I figured out that if I was to ever act on my fantasies I'd better do so now. I started out chatting online on another site, and have made some very good friends there.

They post pictures of new members, and I saw one pic of a very attractive man. I read his profile, but didn't think there was much chance of getting to know him since he lived 1000 miles away. He could see that I had checked out his profile, and apparently then read MY profile. He messaged me back saying that I seemed like an "amazing woman". THAT got my attention : ) He was very up front that he was very involved in the BDSM life and might scare me off. Well, he didn't. We started corresponding and he told me about this site. I've learned a lot. I lurked for a bit, but I've started posting some comments and have gotten very positive comments. My friend and I would now like to meet some time, and he's got me intrigued about a lifestyle I hadn't even really considered before. Wish us luck.

[daddiesgirl16]

I am glad to be able to have access to such a wide variety of information
to research and learn and share with others. I have been interested in submission for a very long time and wish to keep learning more so that it will possibly enhance my service for my master. I am living the life I've dreamed of for years. I only want to live it to the fullest now!

[daddiesgirl16]

I joined this forum because I wanted to try and learn as much as possible about the D&S lifestyle. I love that there are so many things to offer new insights and ideas involved with D&S. It's good to be allowed access to the differing opinions and aspects of this lifestyle. I wanted to meet like-minded people and converse with those that have simular desires also.

[orangeblossoms]

Because unfortunetly even though Im completely open about the kind of things Im into its hard to find people in real life who are into the same thing, how would one of those conversations even get started in real life???!!! Plus where else can you find a thread about deepthroating and ask another sub if she likes getting beaten as much as you do. Enjoy!

[Widget]

Welcome to the forums and have fun here

[Dick Tickles]

Hello and welcome to all the new members!! Those that i have missed in the past, i do appologize and extend an EXTRA DEEP HELLO AND I"M SORRY!!! I hope you find all that you are lookingfor and meet new people here!

I will keep up here in the future!!

[Playfulsub]

I initially found this site after googling bdsm erotic. Since I've started writing it, I've been looking for publishers for this genre. Then I found the stories, and that was all she wrote, so to speak. ;-) I decided to join the forum to have some interaction with like-minded folks. This is one of the friendliest, most helpful, and non-cliquesh forums I've ever experienced. Everyone is so down to earth and real, which is rare in bdsm forums, in my experience.

Also, since my husband of 12 years is discovering his dominant side as I discover my submissive side (what a great coincidence!), it's proving to be a very helpful site as we explore our new life together.

[SandmanII]

Well.. as you can see from my join date and this being my first post in the forums, I'm someone who joined and then wondered away. In my defense I don't think I was in the right place, personally, to get much or contribute here. I'm here because I now think I am and hope to learn much from the many here that are more experienced than me.

[jeanne]

Welcome back!

[itarilde {Master KHL}]

...Morbid curiosity.

[maidjoanna]

I .am a submisive french maid working for Mywife/Mistress CEDWEN
Found this site surfing. My Mistress gave me permision to become a member

I have also submited my true age.

blessings

[redlegtiger]

I Joined this forum so I could respond to fans of my stories, Karen and Michelle's Sad Story and Cynthia Palmer's New Life. I look forward to corresponding with you fans. Sorry it has taken so long to get on the forum.

[likes_it_rough]

found this site awhile back like it so I want join so i did

[sexysubbie]

hello everybody

[annie]

Great to have you all here! WELCOME!

[d_domus]

And what keeps you coming back?

These are two questions that I would like a response to. As I am going thru member profiles to check on birthdates I am noticing a lot of what I call one day wonders---people who join for one day and never return. So I am on a quest to find out why some members do this while other do not.

Maybe thru member input we can make this a more friendly place to new members.


Thanks

Hi Rabbit,

Why, because I am a BDSM fan and your histories are good.
What can keep me coming, a lot of friendly people in the chats and eventually someone special to intimate.

[Juan Baca]

I'm obviously too late technically to be a one-day wonder, but I don't really expect to be making any posts here other than this one, nor will I probably be visiting here particularly regularly, so I figured I'd write this. I joined because I'm into stories featuring sexual violence, rape, and sex slavery, and, while I'm not at all interested in BDSM, it just so happened that bdsmlibrary has a great deal of stories which match my tastes. So when I began to wonder about what these tastes may imply about me as an individual, I first checked out the literotica forums for discussions along the lines of what I was thinking about, and upon finding them too prudish, I came here, since it was stories found here which got me thinking in the first place. I was however turned off upon finding that the forum has less to do with the content of bdsmlibrary than I expected and more to do with the BDSM community. Given that the community is into the whole "SSC" thing, whereas I like stories which almost exclusively fall into the realm of unsafe/insane/nonconsensual and are only marginally related to BDSM, I concluded that this place probably isn't the best fit for me after all.

[d_domus]

I also find a kind of mismatch between the stories and the forums, chat,..., culture of the site.

[JCorey]

Big fan of this site for years and beginning to experiment in a personal relationship and just curious about the opinions and expericences of other newbies.

[LordGrizzly]

I joined because I was looking for a place BDSM oriented, but not so strictly formal as to not allow a few laughs. I find that the Lifestyle online can be a bit too formal, though prople in r/l groups are often as funny as they are Dedicated to the Lifestyle...This forum seems to fit the bill pretty well.

Thank you

[annie]

Great to have you all here! Join in the fun... as LG has found, we are fairly laid back for the most part!

If there are questions let me know! WELCOME!

[Joshsass]

The reason i joined was to learn. i also was told that you guys have some really cool members. so figured i would come say hi.

[mybondage]

I joined because it seems like one of the saner, most inclusive bdsm communities on the internet. BDSM is one of those "niche" things that I don't get to experience at the moment in my everyday life. Ya'll provide a moment of sanity, believe it or not, where I can be free to be very much myself in a world that usually looks at me askance and with wide, grossed out eyes when I even hint that BDSM-y things interest me, turn me on, or intrigue me.

So that's why I joined. Why I STAY could be something completely different!

[dream_evil]

I joined because I had an upbringing that really, really doesn't match the kind of personality I have, especially in the bedroom, so joining to chat and such is a way to get the kinks out, so to speak. Cheaper than therapy! lol

Actually, that's only part of it. Another reason why I'm here is because I love to write, and wanted to explore that here. So hi, everybody.