The one for sub/slaves

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no: I would need to know more of what this entails before answering accurately, it's not something I'm especially familiar with.
Age play: yes: 1
Anal sex: yes: 4: love the idea, and love the limited experience I've had but it is something that becomes very painful for me very quickly, so I am thinking it will take some time...
Anal plugs (small): no: not sure until I try, but I am anticipating a 4
Anal plugs (large): no: 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no: 4
Animal roles: no: 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no: 4
Asphyxiation: yes: 3: I am probably overlapping this with breath control, perhaps I am not 100% positive of the differences
Auctioned for charity: no: sexy fantasy, but how far would it go? 2
Bathroom use control: no: 2
Bestiality: no: no
Beating (soft): yes: 5
Beating (hard): yes: 4: the cane was a little much at first, but it caused quite the "high" for a time
Blindfolds: yes: 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes: 3
Being bitten: yes: 3
Breast/chest bondage: no: 3
Breath control: yes: 4
Branding: no: 2: VERY erotic idea, but the reality is still frightening
Boot worship: no: 1
Bondage (light): yes: 5
Bondage (heavy): yes: 5
Bondage (multi-day): no: 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no: 5
Bondage and Sex: yes: 5
Breast whipping: yes: 4
Brown showers (scat): no: no
Cages (locked inside of): no: 2
Caning: yes: 3: this would be a four because I do very much enjoy it when I hit a particular pain "high," but I know to expect that level of response on a regular basis would be unrealistic
Catheterization: no: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no: 2
Chastity belts: no: 4
Chauffeuring: no: again, not sure how this would play out, but 3
Choking: yes: 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes: 5: Mmmm...
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes: 3: I like this, but it gets very painful very quickly and I lose focus as a result
Clothespins body: yes: 3
Cock worship: yes: 4
Collars (worn in private): yes: 5
Collars (worn in public): yes, but under clothes: 5: LOVE to have J-Go's "mark" on me
Competitions (with other Subs): no: 0
Corsets (wearing): yes: 3
Cuffs: yes: 4
Cuffs (metal): yes: 4
Cutting: no: 3: very erotic idea, but the 3 may change after experiencing
Dilation: no: 0
Double penetration: no: 3
Electricity: no: 2
Enemas: no: 0
Enforced chastity: yes: 4: I love the discipline of this, love the orgasms afterward
Examinations (physical): yes: 2
Exercise (forced/required): no: 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no: 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no: 0
Eye contact restrictions: yes: 4
Face slapping: yes: 4
Fantasy abandonment: no: 1
Fantasy rape: no: 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal: no: 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no: no
Fisting (anal): no: no
Fisting (vaginal): no: no
Flogging: yes: 5: big fan, mmm.
Following hand signals: no: 3
Following orders: yes: 5
Foot worship: no: 1
Forced dressing: yes: 4
Forced homosexuality: no: 1
Forced masturbation: yes: 4
Forced nudity (private): yes: 5
Forced nudity (around others): no: 1
Forced servitude: no: 3
Full head hoods: no: 2
Gags (cloth): yes: 4
Gags (penis shaped): no: 4
Gags (rubber): yes: 4
Gags (tape): yes: 3
Gates of Hell: not even sure what this one is.
Genital sex: yes: 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no: I like the idea, but can't think of anyone yet that I or my Dom would trust? 3 under the right circumstances.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no: 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no: no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no: no
Golden showers: no: no
Greetings rituals: yes: 5: adore the ritual of greeting
Hairbrush spankings: yes: 4: Hell, spankings of most sorts!
Hair pulling: yes: 5: can there be a 6 for this?
Hand jobs (giving): yes: 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes: 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no: 0/1: I really like being the center of my Dom's attention
Harnessing (leather): no: 4
Harnessing (rope): yes: 4
Having food chosen for you: yes: 4: perhaps this is not what this is referring to, but I adore when my Dom selects dinner or even the drinks/wine
Having clothing chosen for you: yes: 4
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio): yes: 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes: 5: this was barely a 3 before meeting my Dom
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no: 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes: 3
Hot waxing: yes: 4
Housework (doing): no: my Dom and I don't live together, so I'm sure this will change when it applys to us
Human puppy dog: no: 0
Humiliation (private): yes: 4
Humiliation (public): yes: 0
Hypnotism: no: 2
Ice cubes: yes: 3
Infantilism: no: 0
Initiation rites: no: 3
Injections: no: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes: 4
Interrogations: no: 2
Kidnapping: no: 2
Kneeling: yes: 4
Leather clothing: no: 2
restraints chains: no: 4
restraints leather: yes: 4
restraints rope: yes: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes: 4: not that I like to or try to misbehave, but I rate this a 4 because when I need to be talked to, well, I need to be talked to
Licking (non-sexual): can licking BE non sexual? ;o)
Manacles & Irons: no: 4
Manicures (giving): no: 2
Massage (giving): yes: 4
Massage (receiving): yes: 4
Medical scenes: no: 0
Modeling for erotic photos: yes: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no: 4
Mouth bits: no: 4
Mummification: no: 2
Nipple clamps: yes: 5: mmmm...
Nipple cloths pins: yes: 5
Nipple weights: no: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes: 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes: 5
Orgasm denial: yes: 4
Orgasm control: yes: 5
Outdoor scenes: yes: 3
Outdoor sex: yes: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no: 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no: 2
Piercing (permanent): no: 2
Prison scenes: no: 2
Pony slave: no: 0
Public exposure: no: 1
Public tasks: yes: 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes: 4
Pussy worship:
Riding crops: yes: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no: not totally sure what this is yet.
Rituals: yes: 5
Religious scenes: no: 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes: 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no: 2
Rope body harness: no: 4
Saran wrapping: no: 2
Scratching – getting: yes: 2
Scratching – giving: yes: 2
Sensory deprivation: no: sounds interesting, but I would have to try before rating
Serving: yes: 4
Serving as art: no: need more specifics
Serving as ashtray: no: 0
Serving as furniture: no: 0
Serving as a maid: no: 2
Serving as toilet: no: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no: 2
Serving orally (sexual): no to anyone other than my Dom, serving my Dom, however? BIG 5.
Serving other Doms (supervised): no: erotic idea, but there would have to be HUGE trust in place, even supervised.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no: no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes: 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no: 2
Shaving (body hair): yes: 3
Shaving (head hair): no: 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes: 4
Sleep deprivation: no: 0
Sleep-sacks: no: 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes: 4
Slutty clothing (public): yes: 2
Spanking in private: yes: 5
Spanking in public: no: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no: 3
Spanking pleasure: yes: 4
Spandex clothing: no: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes: 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars: yes: 4
Standing in corner: yes: 4: I love the anticipation of standing and waiting and listening as my Dom "gets ready" and not knowing quite what he's up to as I'm facing the wall.
Stocks (adjustable): no: 3
Stocks (fixed): no: 3
Straight jackets: no: 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no: 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes: 4
Suspension (upright); no: 3
Suspension (inverted): no: 3
Suspension (horizontal): no: 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no: 0
Swallowing semen: yes: 4
Swallowing urine: no: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no: no
Swinging (multiple couples): no: no
Tattooing: no: 0
Teasing: yes: 4
Tickling: yes: 2
Triple penetration: no: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no: no
Uniforms: no: 3
Including others: no: 2
Vaginal dildo: yes: 3
Verbal humiliation: yes: 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no: 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no: 1
Video (watching others): yes: 3
Video (recordings of you): no: 3
Water torture: no: 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no: 4
Whipping: yes: 4
Wooden paddles: no: 4
Wrestling: yes: 4

I'm sure my answers will change over the next few months, but this is a great place to start. Thank you, Sir Russell.