InnerTemptress,
I have been on the other side of the situation, and have wondered how I would be able to provide my new friend with a sense of security, especially for the first time we will meet and hopefully play. I can offer you a few suggestions that I do and have found they seem to make the first meeting more secure.

I always send a copy of my drivers license to the lady and ask her to give it to a close friend she can trust. No so called Dom would do this if he had any intention of causing harm for obvious reasons. If he doesn't think this is a good idea, I would question his trust in you. As you are asked to put a great amount of trust in him, this little amount of trust should be acceptable to him.

Regardless of how the sub feels about it, I will not use real actual restraint the first time we play. There are plenty of methods where creative minds can find ways to give the impression of restraint, but should the sub wish to exit the scene, she is not actually restrained. If things go well and after a level of trust is build up, there is plenty of time for real restraints.

Of course, have a safe word you both agree on. But in addition to that, I like to have a caution sign for the first few times. Think of it as a yellow light, proceed, but proceed with caution. I like to use a hand movement, as I enjoy using gags, and it doesn't interrupt the play. One I have found works well is two fingers up during caution and back down when the comfort level returns.

Finally, set a time limit the first time. We all has very active imaginations and if we haven't found someone to play with for awhile, there is a tendency to want to do everything all the first time. The best bdsm is between partners who have gotten to know each other and grow and expand over time. The first time is still about checking the chemistry between you and the new person, and a limited play time tends to keep things in check and allows for a graceful exit and time to reflect if this gentleman is actually someone you want to meet a second time

Just my two cents worth.
Mr Stefens

...for the past couple of weeks i have been conversing with a Gentleman who i would now like to consider meeting face to face. we have had discussions about what expectations we each have and things seem to be compatible for the most part...