thank You MrStephens .. that was great help.

i think that i am on the right track as i sent an email to him last night outlining some of what You have stated saying that these were things i needed so that this meeting can happen. my intention is not to "scene" with him the first time we meet and i don't think he would have an issue with that .. i think it'll be me. i've been waiting so long and i can be an impatient slut at times. and Your idea about putting a time limit on things is a great one for that very reason. i want it and i want it all now.