Hi Sir Russell..

just writing to say many thanks for the list .. it certainly has given me lots of things to think about... have only stumbled on this eye opening lifestyle and i have filled out your list in private ..will look at it again in a few months and see if it changes and if i have settled into a realisation of what i want....

but also discovered that i have done several of those things before in vanilla .. just didn;t know that it was classed as bdsm... er they are

Anal sex: yes
Anal plugs (small): yes
Blindfolds: yes
Being serviced (sexual): yes (both giving and reciving)
Being bitten: yes (both giving and reciving)
Bondage (light): yes
Cuffs: Yes (the fluffy pink ones )
Hair pulling: Yes
Head (receiving fellatio): yes
Ice cubes: yes
Over-the-knee spanking: yes
Outdoor sex: yes
Shaving (body hair): yes (pubic hair)
Slutty clothing (private): yes
Spanking: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes

it seems that maybe i was on the path all along, but just didn't realise it .. but i was wondering .. is there a difference when doing these things in a 'dom / sub way' versus 'in a vanilla way'

thanks

brown grizzly