Well BG, it's not so much that some of these things are necessarily classed as bdsm... unless you are commanding your partner do them. That's about the power exchange.

There is certainly nothing special (per se) about vaginal dildos... unless your partner does it specifically upon request.

My girl never owned one but bought one and brought it with her to our last rendezvous, at my request/command. I used it on her and verbalized my thoughts, ideas, and pleasure at bringing her off with it. Alternately fucked her and fucked her with the dildo... now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

Don't forget... the puritans amongst us, (well, not us,) would classify the doggie position as perverse. LOL

It's a great tool though, the list. Expecially when you get to compare yours to your partner's list. That alone can be very sensual. Especially if you make your submissive relate theirs outloud to you. Or if the dominant forces the submissive to sit and listen to all the things he will do to her from his list.

Yeah... I think I'll have to dig ours out and update them next time we're together.