I joined because it seems like one of the saner, most inclusive bdsm communities on the internet. BDSM is one of those "niche" things that I don't get to experience at the moment in my everyday life. Ya'll provide a moment of sanity, believe it or not, where I can be free to be very much myself in a world that usually looks at me askance and with wide, grossed out eyes when I even hint that BDSM-y things interest me, turn me on, or intrigue me.

So that's why I joined. Why I STAY could be something completely different!