Could he be Dom?

[Ozme52]

Go out with him; coffee, dinner, something that can easily put him in a socially dominant role. Does he offer to pay, order for you, go to the ticket counter for both of you. These things can just be him being polite, it could also show a sense of what he is like deep down.

A 'dom' has a hard time turning it off. I do little things throughout my day that half my friends, and all my sub friends, have mentioned. Ultimately, if you walk behind him does he lead?

You are a sub and you know it. Show him a small part of that and just guage how he responds.

Sorry. I have to disagree with this totally. The workplace is so tense vis-a-vis sexual harrassment issues, among co-workers and even moreso between staff and management, that men will be very careful about doing anything with a female co-worker that they wouldn't do with a male co-worker. They might even be more likely to buy a bud a beer than a female co-worker.

Trust me... I was in this very position for a decade. A boss who wants to stay a boss can very easily 'turn it off'. Same is true for co-workers. Good jobs are too easily lost and men are feeling vunerable to the slightest misunderstanding.