First steps

[Echoes]

I am kinda curious why you arent sure if you would wear the lingerie or not actually. Lots of women I know love to wear nice lingerie if not for their significant other but for themselves. They love the feeling of knowing what beautiful and/or sexy things they have on underneath.

and.. has your prospect Dom has been in touch with you yet?
Keeping in touch is important in any relationship imho, D/s or not.

I can wear it at home during the day for myself but this gets kind of cool and in some ways reminds me that I am alone and have been, which is also the reason that I don’t cyber or do on line. The kind of “hurting and yearning so badly to be touched when you haven’t been for so many years” feeling and it is just best to shut it off.

Yes he was in touch but it is over now.

Thank you Logic1

Well said Logic1 and Echoes - have fun

thank you suchaminx…hugs

I hope you have someone to talk to privately, Echoes. And if not, my email address is in my profile. Feel free to use it at any time.

jeanne

thanks hon, contact me anytime you wish also.

echoes

So... even though he is back in contact, I encourage you strongly to find out why the absence and to set the expectation now of what you wish. You may be the sub and you certainly don't want to top from the bottom but there has to be a mutual understanding about some things... this being one of them imho. Otherwise, it is possible that this, continued in the long term, will change your level of respect for him and hurt any type of relationship... be it romantic or friendship.

thanks annie, this is very true, it did hurt and also set doubt within my mind which only leads to lowering of respect and trust.

Hugging you back tight!

A dear and trusted friend can make all the difference in the world. ~smiles~

My PM and email are open as well, should you want/need them.

Thank you also Tessa, hugs

[/color]

Why not now? You are an amazing woman and should be seeing that for yourself.

~huggles for echoes~
tessa

well, I at least would love to see how the darn lingerie looks like on me!

Moving from the fantasy of submission to the reality of it... can be confusing. Even if your partner does everything (or nearly everything) correctly. Because it's all new territory for you.

So yes, it really pays to have someone who can be a confidant.

Confusing for sure, even scary…am I doing this right? He is not here to see me do this, I have never done this before…will I harm myself or do something wrong, leave it on too long, and so on.

Thanks Oz