I'm with Logic on this. Not all experienced doms will move you up to their "level" quickly. IMHO, if they are interested in having you stick around for a while they'll take it slowly. There's plenty of time in a developing relationship to introduce new things gradually, to take it easy. And let me tell you - realizing that He's taking it one step at a time with me and is, to some degree, passing up immediate maximum pleasure for Himself in order to avoid "freaking me out" - well, that's hot. Because I KNOW that when He decides I'm ready to go farther it's going to be more than I can even conceive of, given that where we are now is amazingly wonderful.

I do have one question - if you have a community of kinky people nearby, why not go to a munch once in a while? Give yourself a chance to meet someone in a situation where you can use all your senses and instincts to help you judge if they might be right for you...body language, tone of voice, interactions with others can tell you a lot about a person. Much more than simply the written word.