Zasvig - Sir Russell's hard limit questionnaire is what finally got myself and my sub over this hill. I too was new to the Dom thing and frankly a bit nervous about how far I could/would go. There were some things that even as a Dom I was not going to do to my sub or anyone for that matter! Anyway we went through it alone and then got together and compared notes. We were amazed at how close we were on things that tripped our triggers. Things we had questions about we discusses...remember it's about trust so be open and honest. Most of all relax with it my sub and I still discuss what we liked or were uncomfortable with in a session, this really adds to the excitement of the next session and brings us very close together.

Take it slow it's all an experience and have fun...best of luck!