Really is interesting how we are more into communication than so called vanilla people.
I wonder if this is really true, or something we'd like it to be.

Perhaps, in general "we BDSM couples" are more communicative about our sexual and/or d/s needs and wants than vanilla couples.

That said, T - my hubby - and I started as a "vanilla couple", yet discovered we both had some wonderful BDSM tendancies and have worked them into our 25+ year relationship.