What do you find humiliating?

[DJ_dave]

On another site I read a post where it was discussed that many submissives who enjoy humiliation didn't particularly find that verbal humilation pushed their buttons so to speak. I'd be interested to hear from those who enjoy this type of play what they find to be humilating, be it verbal or physical.

Talking from experience I find that when my mistress wanted to humiliate me she would do it in such a way that I would not feel more exposed and vulnerable than ever but also more turned on than ever too. She would seduce me for what seemed like an eternity then get me play with her in return and after she had come, I was alowed to masturbate infront of her whilst she used her Hitachi Magic wand. This may not sound too bad but being in front of your mistress using a magic wand and wanting some contact more than ever is unbearable. Looking at her as she had yet another orgasm.

Then again she would tell me to ask permission to come then deny my request so as I was forced to stop at the very edge.

So in respect to the question I think physical and verbal humilition are tools used in an alarmingly effective way.

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I think that trying to explain why you enjoy being humiliated is very difficult to do.
Everyone has a different view and idea as to what it means to them, and even then it is still hard to explain the rush you feel and why you feel it.

Humiliation to me is a rush that I am addicted to, and most times it is when I feel completely submissive, because I am pushing the boundries of my mind and completely surrending to it. I am pushing my mind to go to a place that is uncomfortable but I am doing it for him, because he enjoys watching me squirm.
I am no longer his submissive, but a toy to use in whatever manner he sees fit, that to me is a rush in itself.
I love verbal humiliation, because I enjoy being taken to that darker place and feel that rush of adrenalin. I can be called a whore, a cunt or any other derogatory term even in a normal conversation, and it makes it all the more exciting. I feel special and complete.


There is a difference though between being humiliated and being degraded. If you end up feeling worthless and start losing your self esteem, then you are not doing something right at all. Something that I have to work on sometimes, it may not always be an easy thing to do.

Even though you are being humiliated and embarassed to a degree, humiliation can be one of those highly erotic moments that is both taboo and exciting.