Although i like to think of myself as my Master's slave.. Technically in all honesty i'm a submissive. But it’s not really the definition that matters; although real slavery involves ownership and no rights for the owned person, to me -as a personal opinion, BDSM has to be ssc to be what it is. i think there is a clear difference in BDSM terms; a submissive has more rights of negotiation than a slave, (just for an example –i’m sure there are plenty more situations-,) a submissive can refuse to play if he/she isn’t in the mood, a slave will feel he/she can communicate this to his/her Master/Mistress but be expected not to refuse, and leave the decision to the Dom/me. When a D/s couple are involved in each other’s lives only by occasional BDSM play and not D/s outside those times, i’d definitely use the word submissive rather than slave To be a slave i think there needs to be a reasonable element of D/s transferred over to everyday life.

This obviously isn’t “total slavery” but if BDSM is safe sane and consensual then it isn’t total slavery, as a real slave has no rights whatsoever. Some may disagree with me (which is fine!) But i think it isn’t possible for someone to be happy in absolute slavery. A slave in a BDSM relationship can walk if they don’t like the rules, whereas a real slave could not. (though i don’t think I’d want to be with any Dom who would rather let their slave leave them than find a way round the problem and of course punish them later… (i always enjoy the punishment bit

Maybe there should be a separate idea for BDSM slavery…

I think I’m probably about halfway between what i’d describe as a sub and a slave using that idea. Working on being more submissive than i am –i like to please because i’m deeply in love with my Dom, but I get my rebellious moments...