Hi! I introduced myself on the main page, but thought I might as well slip one in here as well. Plus I get to tell my story a little bit more and, as will soon be discovered, I tend to be quite long-winded. I grew up really religious, really sheltered, and in a fairly small community, but I always knew that the usual lovey-dovey-candlelight-and-kisses romance was not for me (which I've since discovered is not entirely true. I can totally appreciate lovey-dovey, so long as it's from Him). For a long time, I felt guilty about that. When I got online, ten years ago this year, I was able to put a name to what I wanted, and found a huge community scattered throughout the 'net. I went through a lot of what I call stages as I searched for the kind of relationship that I thought I wanted and needed. In late 2001 I met my now-husband online. It was strange, because we hadn't met in a setting that was related to D/s, and I certainly didn't portray myself as submissive, given the context, but he picked up on it almost immediately. In February of 2005, I flew across the country to meet him and we clicked. We got married in 2006, and he is my everything. We've struggled with moving from online D/s and friends to married lovers- he feels a dichotomy between the two roles, for reasons I won't get into in this already lengthy post. That's a transition I'm hoping we can resolve soon, but I'm willing to be patient if it can't be soon. I don't often differentiate between Y/you, H/him, etc online because it's my personal preference- I don't think it conveys more of a tone of respect than the way I phrase things already. I sometimes use it to make a point that I'm referring to my husband, and sometimes it feels natural. And now I really am going to stop talking. For now.