I have a couple of comments here. When we were discussing this particular subject, a gentleman friend once made the comment that for anal sex "you should use enough lube, and then a little bit more". I would wager that anyone who has had it done TO them is going to understand that comment perfectly. Once an individual can relax at the very first entry - the most painful part (I take deep breaths) - what follows can be fantastic. I have had one occasion where it did hurt more than it should for no good reason that I could see. Like everything else, everybody is different, but I think that in this case it is very much one's mental state about it that's going to make it good or bad.

Oh, and jeanne, I agree totally about Sir Russell. Now if he only didn't live 1000 miles away- darned Rockies. : )