Here's one of those lists:

http://www.vampirespet.com/ActivityChecklist.html

My pet and I modified it to suit our relationship. One thing we discovered is that while fantasizing about something makes us hot, when it gets down to doing it in real life, it can be a real mood killer..

If you haven't heard of something, don't worry, there are plenty of things on that list that should get your motor running. Some of these things you can try on your own, others work better with a partner.

Have fun and welcome to the site!