Quote Originally Posted by poptart
Those are all really great ideas and I will try some of them, but in general, he gives me much room to make my own choices, i:e when I ask what he would like for dinner the answer is normaly, "whatever you would like to cook"

Poptart
I know how you feel poptart (love that name). Because of my willingness to serve and wanting to make sure I do it right, sometimes I found myself topping from the bottom. Mostly, I found my service felt incomplete or empty because of it. For me, like Tojo pointed out, because of my lack of direction and lack of real domination, my relationship turned hollow with my husband. I do have a Sir and a Daddy and they both know exactly what they want and expect, which is such a releif. I hate when given choices. I would rather be told, and that's the end of it. Sometimes though, they both give me chioces and, of course, they are choices I would rather not make.

Have you discussed your feelings to him about how you need and want him to take more of the choices away? Even though dinner may not seem like a big deal or chore for him to enforce but for you it is. I find that it's the smaller decisions that are taken away from me that I feel more together and able to serve better.

I hope I made sense to you....

subwife