Hello mynrand,

I can only speak of my own experiences, and it for certain is not the only way, or the 'best' way for anyone but me but I hope it will help.

Oh, and this is the UK scene...

I got into the scene after moving away from home, I had always had an interest, but was in a new town away from my old life and family. I looked on the internet for resources etc and the same reoccurring theme or advice to getting into the scene was to find and attend a local munch. (google munch if you are not sure what this is) .
So... I went to said munch, and have not looked back. I have met so many people from all parts of the scene. I was obviously scared when I first went, but since the munch had a website I used the 'meet and greet' service so I knew a veteran member outside the venue, this made me feel much better.
I have now been able to go to several munches around the country, they are all so very different.

I have now gone to several clubs in the UK also, like the munches they differ greatly and I won't go into this much as I expect clubs are like personalities - there are no two the same.

Also I could use some info just on how financially costly it is to be involved. Any other relevant info, books, resources, or websites would also be great. NYC related info is especially appreciated, but I'd like to hear from everyone.
As to the cost, I am by no means well off, but I don't feel this lifestyle has to be expensive. My Dom and I make some of our own toys now - simple floggers or paddles. For example - a wooden spoon from a kitchen shop for less than two pounds makes an excellent paddle, I recommend using this thread for information and tips on this. Fun Household Items

When it comes to costs for clubs/munches etc. Munches, where I am from do not charge for entry or membership and most of them do not have a dress code as it is a 'vanilla' event.
Clubs are different, and the membership and entry fees vary. I do not feel that they charge massive prices, and you don't normally spend any more than your average night out.
I would say that the biggest expense for me and my Dom is clothes, especially mine. I like corsets and leather things to wear and he likes to dress nice too!
I find that charity shops are fantastic when looking for things to piece together an outfit. I have dressed as a schoolgirl (cliche) or something easily done without spending too much and had no problems.

You should never feel obliged to purchase anything to 'fit' in, or have the latest shiny outfit or £150 bullwhip. You make this lifestyle fit you, your budget and your style.

... so in summary...

I would advise going around your local hardware store and look at the kitchen utensils section in a different light!
Search online and make enquiries about local 'scene' groups in your area.
and keep using the web for information, it's helped us all at some point, and during the first tentative few months can help a great deal.

Hope this helps

Badlyguidedlittlemiss