I guess - as with you D - but a few years earlier - I discovered the joys of BDSM without really knowing what it was - did I turn a vanilla? Myself maybe - I discovered then and there that I liked kink real-time, not just in my head. But the dominance was always there - and fortunately for me - the girl's submission was always there as well - it answered a need neither of us had recognized - but the need was always there.