The problem with paraphrasing is that you never really get the feel of the whole. The impression that I got was that the sub is giving someone the ability to take full advantage of them, but they will not out of respect. THIS is the thrill. I know that I can make Vixey do anything that I want her to, but there are some things that she is not comfortable with. I have no idea what it is like to be a sub, just like I have no idea what it is like to be a woman, but my best guess is that when you are lying there taking what is being dished out, you do not truly know what is going through the mind of the Dom. For all you know, the Dom could be planning some deviously twisted thing and you could become a victim rather than a playmate, but in the end, you get out safe and had fun, completely giving yourself to the whims of another. I don't know if this makes sense, but I enjoyed the discussion.