redsonjaseattle, you don't sound crazy to me- crazy would more like if you were to put up with being treated in a way that was unacceptable to you.

In my opinion, as well as the majority it seems- do as Aesop says, & forget about what's 'done' in the D/s world.

A D/s relationship is like any other, it's between 2 people & to hell with what others think. Seems to me many of the people who don't care about what they're doing are the ones who spout 'rules' & what you should or shouldn't do.

Do what is right. If someone betrays your trust & won't listen to you, do what it takes.

As far as him 'releasing you', you have the right to do as you please, the same as anyone. If not, laws are being broken.

You have to decide for yourself what you want without compromise. If you can't sort it out with him you know better than anyone what you have to do.

As for what you said- "so tell me now if this has just been a bunch of casual fucks for you wrapped up in D/s rhetoric."

Well put, I couldn't have said it better myself! Sounds like you've got it pretty well figured.

Tojo