Quote Originally Posted by dangerous_perfection View Post
Hi everyone,
I know my questions is vague but I was wandering if any experienced doms or dommes have any advice for a new domme (I am currently in training).
I have gathered lots of info regarding respect, treatment etc but am still curious about the actual actions of a domme & sub.
My sub will be female until I have completed my training.
Thanks a lot in advance, Bree x
Hi there. It was great reading your message and I will TRY to keep this as brief as I can but I feel I have alot to share here. Not from experience but I am fairly new to this lifestyle as well and love hearing from others who are new and are looking for advice, etc. I met my "subbie" a year ago. I am a 43yof and she is a 45yo male-to-female transsexual. I fell for her the minute I saw her and we had our committment ceremony in July and were "married". She has years of experience in the lifestyle and we have "played" but having been vanilla all my life she has been incredibly patient waiting for me to be ready to really to want to be the Domme. Well. I'm more than ready and we have recently had a turning point in our relationship. I whole-heartedly agree with others when they say to talk with your partner. Communication and honesty is the key to making this a natural, comfortable and exciting thing. I was raised to be the "good girl", to be passive and be submissive. On the other hand, my wife, having been raised male, grew up with the exact opposite expectations. We are both more than ready to relinquish those roles and assume the roles that feel most comfortable and natural to us both. I would love to share more specifics if anyone is interested in sharing because like I said I am new and am looking to chat, make friends and learn myself. Hope to hear from you. Glad you've made the journey here as well....it's an exciting place to be ---MistressBear