My submissive leanings were there from pretty early on (early teens at least), however as I grew and became sexually active it was my Dom side that really appeared in my r/l interactions.

Looking back, I suspect that is because I had very little success finding men I truly respected as Dominants and instead of being disapponted and discouraged I just turned the tables and put myself in the top role. In my current relationship I do tease and play with J occasionally as if I'm gonna' try and top him, but those "games" aways end with a "subbie revolt" and J putting me quite soundly back into my place...

The point being, for me going against my natural inclinations was either a sign that a) I was not with the correct partner or b) I was having troubles feeling comfortable with my own identity in the relationship.