Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52
Regardless, it always takes "two to tango," lifestyle or not. It has nothing to do with 'BDSM being ersatz or sugarcoated unless you remove consent...' unless you believe all sexual encounters to be such. The requirement for consent appears to me to be built into just about all the warmblooded fauna in the world... with the female being the one who ultimately chooses. Afterall, the female is the biggest risktaker. She sacrifices more time and life-energy to create, protect, and nurture the offspring...
You are just reinforcing my point here, that the title of Dom is a misnomer as Doms don't have the power (legally) to subject a sub to their will. Therefore bdsm IS an ersatz experience!