there is a powerful enlightenment and liberation as such i don't think even gets touched upon in a vanilla relationship - this isn't boyfriend/gurlfriend games, it's serious and it's more in the mind than anywhere - everywhere a closed-minded vanilla wouldn't dare tread.

all those who would cast their judgemental eye upon us, without education, knowledge or experience, know not the powerful feelings involved for..

..the sub: the absolute release of guilt for what she needs and craves in His acceptance

or

..the Dom: the incredible rush of molding one so willing to Your will with her complete and utter love, trust, adoration and respect

just touches the tip of the iceberg of what this life and lifestyle hold