i cant speak for other girls but i love it, i dont use lube well not from a jar anyway lol although sometimes i can be a bit more tense than others.
for punisment no way! why punish somebody with something they love?
if he/she doesnt like anal then its generally because their too tense and forcing it upon them (which is what it would be really) can be dangerous.
any form of sex imo should never be used as punishment i think it could cause a lot of damage emotionally as well as physically.