i dont think its blaise at all , its great when people are happy and are able to share that happiness with others, and i think its very important to be able to talk with and share both the good and the bad with likeminded people.

but when people idealise everything i genuinely dont understand why? ive known of D/s couples lasting 20 mths and vanillas lasting 20 yrs and vice versa....all that matters is that people are happy.

and i understand about bad vanilla relationships mastersgem i was only too glad to get out of those