Gem, that is great, a lot of people new to BDSM dont realize they need to know themselves before they start playing, but just jump in and end up learning from their mistakes when they meet someone who isn't truly trustworthy. I'm glad you put this out in the welcome thread, cause newbe's are more likely to see it, but to be honest i think you should also post it somewhere else where EVERYONE is likely to see it... kinda to warn those who really aren't trust worthy(not that i think there are any here, but anything is possible) that we are on the lookout for them. beautiful post though, and a big thank you for the help you are definitally giving to those who need it.